Certainly as a "professional psychic" it is imperative that I stay as calm as possible, not only during a "reading"

but throughout the day 

the likelihood of my being able to work at a high-level is enhanced by this state of calmness

some people like to do things to "inspire themselves" and one of the tactics some may choose is to rev up their worlds, turn the chaos-meter to "high" and let that "motivate them"

I believe this approach is counter-productive to a state of being in which one can be both "in the moment" and "in the zone"

I live my life, as much as possible, in a manner designed to diminish the chaos in my life

this means I try not to invite chaotic people into my world, nor hold viewpoints in which revenge or "getting even" in any way is part of my state of mind

this DOES NOT mean that I don't love or embrace friends in stressful sitiuations; it means I do my best not to add to that 

nor seek out people whose primary skill is bringing disruption 

I have a high degree of self-confidence, which helps quite a bit . . . not just as a psychic but in most areas of life

this also adds to my power to stay centered and calm (as much as possible)

anything you do -- give a reading, play a sport, act in a play, talk to your children, deal with a hectic day at work . . . anything you do

you will find that your performance level goes up if you can stay calm -- and, on top of that, your stamina will also improve

you not only will perform at a higher level, you won't get as tired, either

life is about choices 

my choices revolve as much as possible around staying centered, not only because I want to work at the highest level possible

I want to also deal with others in the most balanced way possible

I have learned this lesson after many years of being in "relationships" that were very intense, filled with "drama"

the sex was great, the cost, though, even greater

in retrospect, perhaps not the wisest course of action

love yourself; that is my advice (and I realize this, truly, is the hardest thing one can do -- yet it is critical to moving forward "into your light") . . . and in doing so, it is likely you will also choose a path forward in which you can find some bit of inner peace

I can be a pretty good psychic under the most stressful whacked out situations you could imagine

but by living a life (now) in which I make conscious choices to stay centered, as opposed to seeking "excitement" and/or "external motivation"

I am better, not only as a psychic, but as a human being, as well

I did a radio show last night in which I talked, for 2 hours, about reincarnation, "soul mates", the "theory" of past life regressions (because I have theories about how and why they do what they do -- as well as why they don't always do what you think) and other assorted past life "stuff"

I have come to an interesting fork in my own personal (and professional) road of late

and it is becoming more and more clear to me that our personal journey is "pre-loaded" with people

who show up to point the way -- either with a kind word or with a stick

and dealing with (and exploring) the psychological aspects of our "growth" through our exchanges with those who show up (and HOW they show up) allows one to, pretty much, chart their own spiritual growth moving forward

as well as kick start the changes within that will help maximize the good in future interpersonal exchanges and minimize "the bad"

when I talk to people about "soul mates" I am finding two very powerful things occur -- one, people seem amazed (which honestly surprised me) at what I am saying, like they had never heard anything like it (which also surprised me)

and, two, after I say it there is always that aha kind of sigh, like it "makes sense" somehow

most of my own personal "complications" in life have come about because of "relationships"

. . . yes I really have let Mister Pee Pee "vote" on what I should do -- let's just say that now (whatever you may think of voting laws in the U.S.) I make sure he has I.D. and is not drunk when he shows up at the polls to give his "in put" on new legislation

but no matter the "cause", you can easily see (if you look at my history) that relationships have shown up, over and over and OVER, to shake my world

but the relationships, truthfully, weren't the cause of my complications, I WAS THE CAUSE of my complications

however . . . my complications (and here's the "aha part") weren't designed to hurt me, they were pre-loaded banks of experiences designed to HELP point me to "the promised land"

my theories on "past lives" most definitely drive my experience of spirituality, religion,God

and I am finding my theories on soul mates are starting to drive (more and more) my "experience" of past lives

you may hold on to a "limitation" longer than, ideally, you might wish

but it is quite possible that limitation is helping you "align" for the time, and place, that is "right"

for you to move quickly ahead

not all complications are bad -- it may be a "place holder" from "The Universe"

to help make sure you get to the proper place "on time"

(Originally published on Facebook -- September 9. 2014)

I am still amazed that it took this long for the NFL to "recognize" that condoning violence against women -- which its original luke warm slap on the wrist did 

is not something that should be taken lightly

I was appalled at the time that a video in which a professional football player is seen DRAGGING AN UNCONSCIOUS WOMAN off the elevator

was not seen for what it was -- an incredibly violent act by a man -- again a professional football player 

against a woman

and no matter how much money a man makes -- or what his level of Fame 

we CANNOT accept this behavior

The NFL doesn't get it . . . and I appreciate the outrage against him has now forced their hand

but they shouldn't have needed to gauge public outrage before they acted

it was outrageous already

they should have done this straight away 

a young woman unconscious on an elevator shouldn't have to give her side of the story nor take responsibility for her "part in it"

when you knock her out, no matter what "reason"

the game is over -- there is no justification, period

all his touchdowns, to me, "don't mean shit"

he did this himself (to himself, as well) . . . and that, to me, is "the truth"

 . . . On Twitter, the #1 "trending" topic is domestic abuser and former Ravens RB Ray Rice -- on FB, the #1 "trending" topic is also about an East Coast NFL RB

LeSean McCoy, who reportedly left a small tip at a Philadelphia restaurant


not a peep about Ray Rice, which as my pal Michelle pointed out to me -- something I had to confirm for myself

is kind of "odd"

In Nashville last year I had several "incidents" in which I opened my mouth in situations where white men were either talking shit about "minorities"

or were openly spouting off to "foreign minorities" that they "didn't belong here"

I am sure the nice white boys were super-surprised when the crazed Russian mafioso "actor" got in their face

but somebody needs to do it -- and it shouldn't have to ONLY be the individuals in the "minority" who do it, either; we (in this case, "white people") need to stand up and say behavior that is racist is unacceptable and we will not tolerate it -- even though the direct connection to how it may impact us may not be readily apparent

(oh it's there, but not everyone can go down the trail to see it)

same thing holds true regarding both domestic violence against women and the systemic belittling and disenfranchisement of WOMEN

which is done EVERY DAY

as MEN, we need to stand up and say this behavior is ALSO unacceptable and that we support women and want them to feel safe

and have opportunities, EQUAL opportunities, just like the rest of us

a man's FEAR of a woman's SEXUAL POWER

is not a reason to do this to her -- because to me, it all comes down to that

I have been in situations where my girl friend has been angry with me and punched me but I never ever hit back

that is a choice

and also a standard of behavior -- this does not condone their behavior to me

but it does reinforce, in my mind, the obligation we (as men, who are likely more physically powerful than a woman -- although this is not always the case) have to find a calm respectful space in which to move forward

bottom line, to me -- violence against women is a serious serious problem

and the best defense we have against this is for MEN to continue to take measures to make sure it stops

this "action" by the NFL to "protect" Ray Rice wasn't, to me, ABOUT Ray Rice -- it was about the NFL and the NFL OWNERS saying "we are powerful men" and we AS powerful men

say what's acceptable and what isn't it

there is a whole lot of political rhetoric in the air of late saying some crazy things regarding a "woman's place"

the NFL was simply reinforcing their "perceived right" to say a woman's place is being quiet on Sunday afternoon so I can watch the GAME

I am a long-time Cincinnati Bengals FAN (which means I have suffered a long time, as well) and finally they have an amazing team that should do very well

but it will be hard for me to take any NFL games seriously anymore

we need to change the "rhetoric" in this culture which means, on a collective level, we need our minds to change on a collective level, as well

I don't quite get why some men want to still act like cave men 'cause, look around boyz, we don't live anymore in a fuckn cave

all discrimination: race, gender, sexual orientation, religion etc etc etc

needs to GO

it is TIME . . . for MEN to stand up and say "this shit is DONE"

period

end of fuckn story

in my personal readings, I am CONSISTENTLY seeing people moving into positive spaces, increased happiness, increased prosperity

of course, there is no 98 % accurate psychic -- by the same token, I am rarely all that far off

the fact that sooooooo many readings over and over and over are showing a happier, better world a couple of years down the road

leads me to this "conclusion"

a couple of years from now -- in spite of the mountains of problems confronting us from every angle

things, for most of us, on a collective level, are going to be BETTER

 . . . The world, in my opinion, is changing -- because people's MINDS are changing !!

as we begin to have meaningful dialogue about issues, largely because of the focus AND reaction of people to NFL players and their issues with domestic violence and child abuse

and people can see there are others like themselves who feel sadness at what is happening and begin questioning the CHRISTIAN ATTITUDE

(something I have written about for the past 8 years !!)

regarding disciplining children and the pervasive attitudes towards women in this culture

as more people begin to see the Emperor's attire is not what it appears

as they see that police are no longer who they were and no longer "protect and serve" but instead ENFORCE

that money goes down into a black hole and never comes back out -- but powerful people through some sleight of hand defying logic and mathematics become richer and even MORE powerful

as people say "hey, aren't these people we're fighting the same people last year we gave weapons to in order to help us fight this other group, the ones now we need in order to fight the FIRST group"

and finally, when people can no longer deny that the weather is really just fuckn WEIRD

as those things continue to happen the world will change -- people are too smart and basically TOO GOOD

to have the wool pulled over their eyes forever

I stand by my prediction that the world will change for the better and the reasons I listed above are the biggest reasons why

My prediction way back in 2008 that a wrist watch that was also a small computer would show up IN 2014 (that was the year I predicted)

seems, incredibly (or not) to be actually happening

like earthquakes and unemployment trends, I seem also to have some sort of "thang" for seeing funky changes in technology

that at the time don't always seem "likely"

yeppers, I think I'll count this one 

http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/10/tech/mobile/apple-watch-hands-on/index.html?hpt=te_t1

what is Mastery ??

once you make the decision as to what you want to "do" in your life, then you move into alignment with a certain "emotional space"

that decision is the move -- and making a decision is ALWAYS the "complication"

. . . from that point on, the only real "issue"

is whether you let fear influence your sense of "there-ness"

(a synonym for your "centeredness") and kick you off course

at which point the whole cycle of making a decision starts all over

example -- you decide you want to be an actor; people give you shit -- "have you been in any plays, are you on TV ??" etc etc etc

some times these questions make you question yourself, and therefore question if you made the right choice

if these "inquiries" cause you to "second guess" your decision, then truthfully you haven't really made a decision

you're simply shopping for what's on the "approved" list of choices

always a bad plan . . . and a guaranteed "time killer", as well

but it is the decision, followed by the recognition that in whatever state you find yourself 

this is where you "fit"

it is that recognition that changes your life

because it is the "fear" that you dont belong "there"

that causes most of your issues

there are details to work through, but they are simply details

and consciously you will work through them as they arise -- some easy, some pains in the ass

but the sense of "being there" is the hard part

once you decide -- then everything that follows is a task, not a burden

this, to me, is the key -- knowing you belong, because you made the decision this is who you are and what you're going to DO

don't look for results -- these are out of your control

make a decision about what you want to do . . . and then it is all a series of steps

no emotional turmoil, only a series of tasks to keep moving forward

my decision is not whether or not to "be a psychic" --- that is a detail, a step along a bigger path, one on which I am completely clear

my choice is to live a life in which I explore how past lives work and what it all means

if being a psychic helps feed me or helps me connect to others who may help me on that path, that is wonderful

sometimes I debate whether I am better served doing that or designing test plans for software implementations

but those are details -- I am "clear" about what I am doing

I sometimes debate the details -- that is a horse of a different complexion

however, I never question my true "path"

fear of judgment is what makes people search for meaning -- what they are really saying is I don't know if enough people will support my choice

maybe I should make one they will like better

but ultimately that "cycle" only feeds upon itself

one of the "problems" people "collide with" -- and why I have "job security" as a psychic 

is they have been "taught" their choices either (a) don't matter or (b) are never correct

this is an emotional land mine and not always so easy to work through

but what this ultimately does is make it more difficult to make the "choice" because you don't have a strong emotional foundation from which you can stand up for yourself

you are not "allowed" the freedom to choose and when you start to make choices the group doesn't "like" well they do those things they "do" in order to get you to conform

but, honestly, Mastery is an outgrowth of choice

not everything is going to be easy, but it is the choice that changes your world, for the better

Mastery is, on one level, moving into alignment with an emotional centeredness in which fear doesn't dissuade you from your purpose

nor negatively influence you powers to focus

most people have 90 things going on in their head all the time; a "Master" can more easily tune that "noise" out and do what needs to be done to move forward

make your CHOICE and then, truly, it is simply a series of tasks

the emotional "crisis" is, by and large, over

and that, by and large, is what it is "all about" :)

I am an "emotional psychic" which means that the way I read is to (as best I can) try to get into the emotional head space of a person and use that as a guide to how they "process"

which gives me a baseline from which to project forward what they are likely to "do"

on a collective level -- how I have managed to be pretty accurate in seeing economic trends as well as earthquakes and floods, etc -- I "read" the collective "state of mind"

just as I would for an individual or a family

economic changes cause problems; problems lead to emotional reactions

emotional reactions "register" on my andini-meter and that is how/why I am able to work as I do

other psychics do other things and because their means of perception is different, they will be better at some things than me

as I will be better at some things than them

anyway . . . the moral of this story is this: to me, the "collective emotion" I feel in the future is one of collective "hopefulness" -- just as 8 years ago I felt a collective "gloom" up around the bend

I think things are going to be better . . . because I feel people, on a collective level, in a happier space

right now is clusterfuck city -- in many ways it couldn't get much worse

but . . . I "feel it" later on as being a much happier, together kind of place

my trend line for the future -- with big some kabangs sadly still to hit first

. . . is things are "better"