sometimes this is a conscious choice, but typically it is an unconsious declaration
everybody's "the same" until you wake up
. . . then the different "kind of relationship"
you "say" you want will just . . . poof
it is this attitude that "leads" the partner to behave in a certain way
what you "believe" about yourself
grounded in your self-worth or lack thereof
drives how you act -- which is a driver, too
in revealing to your partner how you should be treated
. . . so, basically, until you change how you see yourself
all your relationships will follow a "pattern"
patterns are unconscious
those who sleep miss breakfast