Seeing with your Ears

it has been my observation over time -- both in my own life and in talking with, quite literally, over 10,000 clients over the years

that you may fall in love because of what you see but you "stay in love" because of what you hear

meaning . . . the connections you have that last have an intellectual and emotional foundation

and it is this mental connection that seals the deal -- there are probably many people you will see for whom you feel an almost immediate sexual attraction

but connections that last are ones in which the minds are in sync (in my opinion) more than any other fact

for example -- I have actually had this experience more than once, being a handsome young thing who was bold and "pool boyish" and connected, quite quickly (somehow), with "alpha women"

. . . the experience: falling hard for a super beautiful woman but one who was uber-conservative politically . . . the sex was fantastic, they were arm-candy extraordinaire and you could "go places"

but (for sure) it always turned out that these were not a good match after the initial fire subsided and you had "to talk"

and if your interests have zero in common or your attitudes about basic things -- this could be food, entertainment, certainly Religion . . . a hard core realist vs someone who is more artsy / emotional

etc etc etc

are not in alignment, then no matter how beautiful the partner, long-term

it is simply not going to work -- no matter how handsome, how socially connected, how great the sex, how great the bank account

if the minds aren't in sync, and your emotional "styles" incompatible . . . the happy days just cannot last
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you're "attracted" with your eyes but the thing that matters most is the experience you have with "their mind"