in English -- whenever I have listened to people and acted the way "I'm supposed to" (uh huh) things are always bad
whenever I am zen and trust my own instincts and just go -- yeah I "hear" this is bad but I am going to do it anyway
I am popular as fuck and women like me
moral -- never listen to advice if the advice is to act some "proscribed way"
if that "way" isn't who you really are
I get talked into "changing" when the change is not really what works; I am sure this happens to you, too
don't do it hahahaha . . . be yourself and OWN IT
those who get you will line up and those who don't will shut the door . . . better to get the right people in the right place