I believe we certainly create conditions within ourselves that lead to "external events"
but to blame someone because they have a predisposition to, or genetic marker for, a certain type of physical ailment or give them shit they're not moving "fast enough" when dealing with a series of incredibly traumatic events -- for example, the death of family members or friends . . . to say to someone they should instantly "get over it" and berate them in some way passive-aggressive New Age approved way because, so far, they haven't "thought their way out of it"
well, to me, this simply isn't fair nor is it realistic
you need to take responsibility for your growth, no doubt -- but to feel all this toxicity directed at you because you don't seem (yet) to have it all together
is not fair . . . and I say this due to having conversations about this literally every week of my life with someone "dealing", as best they can
with other people, basically, "positive-thought-shaming" them
walk a mile etc etc etc #etc