please tell me

do you believe you're "lovable" ??

saying it means nothing; telling your friends you "deserve love" means nothing; repeating incantations or practicing for your "beloved" means nothing

if you don't believe you are lovable

so . . . the question:

do you believe you're lovable? If you "do" then, soon enough, you will have love

if you do not "believe it", then you will search not for love but for "reasons to believe" you are (in fact) lovable
translation: love comes love goes

when you "believe" you're lovable because YOU KNOW you're lovable -- then you will find love
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until then, you will search not for love but for confirmation
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truth