however, when you stop struggling "so much" it is possible (sadly, in fact, often all too likely)
that the people who helped you DON'T WANT YOU to ever "stop stuggling"
and unconsciously it is far too common to see people stay stuck in an attempt to be "grateful"
knowing when to cut this cord is one of the MOST COMPLEX things any of us can do
this is the foundation for the millions of co-dependent relationships we see all around us
sometimes, you have to say "thank you" and move on
grateful for the help (at the time) but conscious of the space in which you "currently live"
I know this is a tough one . . . but try to see it from this vantage point
helping you is their "gift"
in a weird way
lots of people give in the hopes of a greater payday later
and yes I know -- this is COMP LUH KATE TID
but it is also