not that easy

it is not so easy for people who have suffered through traumatic situations, who are dealing with profound loss, grieving

not so simple to just instantly "get over it"

telling them that it's "their fault" is not really all that helpful . . . a little compassion, please . . . and please, too, put the "love and light" #shaming away

telling someone they "caused it" doesn't really help them get "over it"

especially when, truth be told, the reason they experienced whatever they experienced

wasn't really something "they caused"
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tragedies find you -- even if you did nothing, directly, to invite them in