Love Addict

"Unconscious" attractions are not to people -- they are to the types of experiences that will arise from the INTERACTION with these people

those who "repeat patterns" are looking for the emotion, yet they think they are looking for the partner

it is the "rush" that comes with triggering the emotion -- even (no, ESPECIALLY) if the emotion is a "negative" one

to break the pattern, one has to first "detox" from the craving for that particlular emotional "rush"

at its "core", this is no different than any other "addiction" -- first you have to understand that your addiction is causing a "problem"

and then you have to be motivated to change

 . . . all addictions have similar features

typically they are a compensatory action

this is no different, fundamentally, from any other addiction

with this exception -- with an alcoholic, he knows he buys vodka to get drunk

with this -- there may not be the same causal relationship awareness

but, at its core level, they are more similar than different

an addiction, with a craving that will "need to be filled"

until one gets the high "somewhere else"

ideally in a postive productive way