Almost all romantic "issues" stem from "expectations"
when you are spontaneous, playful . . . sharing space
then typically all is good
when the "idea" of what should BE rears its ugly head; we've been dating six months, we need to be X
Bobby and Sally have sex 4 times a day why can't/don't we !! . . . I don't care what your mother thinks -- I am not
etc etc etc
rules, usually adopted willy nilly from someone else who wasn't happy either . . . are the end
I have been guilty of this, of course, many times; I have wanted guarantees, wanted a certain "response" even after I may have stopped DOING the very thing that ONCE elicited the response I wanted BACK
so, here's the truth:
BE -- stop expecting
when you are spontaneous, playful . . . sharing space
then typically all is good
when the "idea" of what should BE rears its ugly head; we've been dating six months, we need to be X
Bobby and Sally have sex 4 times a day why can't/don't we !! . . . I don't care what your mother thinks -- I am not
etc etc etc
rules, usually adopted willy nilly from someone else who wasn't happy either . . . are the end
I have been guilty of this, of course, many times; I have wanted guarantees, wanted a certain "response" even after I may have stopped DOING the very thing that ONCE elicited the response I wanted BACK
so, here's the truth:
BE -- stop expecting
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