Focus Focus

when I was young, late teens early 20's, it was my "job" when I went out to bars with friends to walk across the bar, like some cavalry officer with a white flag, to a table full of women

and "pick up" all of them

once this had been accomplished -- provided it was a successful peace treaty . . . then the others would wander over and the sorting process begin

soooo . . . what is the "lesson" of this story?

there are many possible ones . . . but the one I think "matters" is this: believing you "can" works in ways nothing else will . . . and because there was a core belief, both in myself and my friend's, too

that my march across the burning sands to a table full of women would meet with success and not a flurry of burning arrows

I found time and again that the "expected success" actually came to pass

not always of course but often enough to keep on keepin' on

there were probably more reasons to fear this than make it happen . . . and probably most people would find this "complicated"

but the "trick" is owning that something good could happen

maybe it won't but maybe it will

and focusing on "maybe it won't" stops you

and focusing on "maybe it will"

does not
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lesson: don't focus on "maybe it won't" :)