what "matters" is connecting to your true essence because, without this connection
. . . you think circumstances dictate who you are
they do not
but until you "know who you are", it is understandable (although limited) that you might think what is happening is "all there is"
another world, another set of eyeballs
it exists; can you see it
if so, then
. . . "circumstances" don't matter -- you can always change circumstances