not so simple to just instantly "get over it"
telling them that it's "their fault" is not really all that helpful . . . a little compassion, please . . . and please, too, put the "love and light" #shaming away
telling someone they "caused it" doesn't really help them get "over it"
especially when, truth be told, the reason they experienced whatever they experienced
wasn't really something "they caused"
tragedies find you -- even if you did nothing, directly, to invite them in