as the cost of tuition is greater than the value of your "lesson"
there is value in figuring it out and moving on !! . . . but until you see dysfunction "is dysfunction"
short answer: YOUR life is dysfunctional
don't stay in fucked up situations because you think it is "teaching you" something; if you see it's dysfunctional
and continue to "maintain" the status quo
then you haven't really learned