a few years back on a radio call-in show, a man asked me when I thought he and his girl friend were going to get married
he was very enthusiastic and sounded "so much in love"
but I wasn't feeling it and I kept saying to him "I feel there is a DISCONNECT here in terms of communication"
and he would repeat how wonderful she was and how much he loved her
so, when did I think they would get married
and I kept coming back to "I feel like there is a real communication breakdown here"
. . . oh she is soooooo fabulous; I am sooooooo looking forward to marrying her
to which I continued to go down the communication "issue" trail
"well what does SHE say about all this -- how does she feel about getting married because, truthfully, I feel there must be some issues with this"
yeah but when do you see us getting married
. . . dosey meets doe
etc etc etc yadda yadda Ya DA
I knew something was up and I tried to gently lead him to my "vision" of his future
turns out -- about 5 minutes later during our conversation (or maybe longer) -- that there WAS just a tiny communication "issue"
and that issue was this:
wifey-to-be had stopped talking to him months earlier, had blocked his phone number, blocked him on all social media
yet he persisted in thinking any day she would "show up"
and wedding bells would chime
. . . this story sounds unusual -- but sadly it's not
an extreme case, perhaps, but all too common
communication "issues" . . . indeed