this is where both cause AND effect will show most clearly
the most common reasons are (a) I want to "deflect attention"
because either (1a) I have been sexually "invaded" in some way or (1b) I don't feel "worthy of the attention" -- which is an outgrowth of verbal abuse somewhere along the way
or (b) I am building a bubble like the Michelin man to keep people out of my "personal space"
these are the most common "symptoms"
but symptoms always have reasons that "lead to" the symptoms
and until one understands -- and makes some level of peace with
gaining weight as a "deterrent"
will likely continue
sadly, but understandably, many women feel "safer" this way than if they were "thinner"
therefore MAINTAINING the weight (not releasing it) is a goal (even if it is "unconscious") and until the goal changes
maintaining the additional "protection" is likely to persist
to "lose the weight" someone would first need to change their attitude about what life would be like if they were thinner
and didn't have this as "protection"
therefore, it serves a purpose even if the purpose is not what one might "consciously" want
as long as someone "fears" the attention -- and the potential vulnerability perceived as the "price tag"
they will be less likely to want to release the weight (even if they say they "do")
on top of this -- since 2nd chakra issues are often ones of self-negation
they are ALSO giving themselves additional reasons to beat themselves up
which is why it all started in the first place
I get it; trust me, I understand it
but this is why I say "your body changes when your brain changes
and not until"
women who have been sexually violated in some way -- either through an invasive act or by being verbally addressed in ways that made her fearful
will often (if their childhood was "irregular) revert to this as an unconscious punishment to themselves
and as a tool -- the best one they could think of (which makes its own "sense") to "shut off" the invasive action
women are (the best way they know how -- even if they are not "conscious" of doing so) trying to keep themselves safe "from harm"
even though, consciously (and tragically), they are -- to make matters even worse
also often angry at themselves "for being afraid"
which, of course, only COMPOUNDS the issue because it is common to gain weight as PUNISHMENT
for having gained weight
rinse and repeat, the cycle (sadly) continues :(