was a "burden" as it only served to make others "envious" . . . and for those of us whose childhood "experiences" served as a deterrent to devloping a healthy, balanced self-esteem
it was often easier to "throw away" what was good -- so as to both minimize the noises of the "haters" while
concurrently supporting our faulty and limited visions of ourselves
than step up and "own" our gifts
a common, but tragic, theme
how, then, does one flip this script?
it is not easy -- but it can be done
and the most important element of this transition (in my opinion) is seeing clearly what others "gained" by creating your original "fracture"
in English -- what was in it for your parents or friends
when they took your power away from you? how did this
. . . help them
understand, as best you can, "their motivation"
then try to see if their truth is really
if not . . . and you learn to "see this"
you may find that the self-negation you have held so long may begin, quietly at first
and a more balanced "truth"
grows like a rose