that you may fall in love because of what you see but you "stay in love" because of what you hear
meaning . . . the connections you have that last have an intellectual and emotional foundation
and it is this mental connection that seals the deal -- there are probably many people you will see for whom you feel an almost immediate sexual attraction
but connections that last are ones in which the minds are in sync (in my opinion) more than any other fact
for example -- I have actually had this experience more than once, being a handsome young thing who was bold and "pool boyish" and connected, quite quickly (somehow), with "alpha women"
. . . the experience: falling hard for a super beautiful woman but one who was uber-conservative politically . . . the sex was fantastic, they were arm-candy extraordinaire and you could "go places"
but (for sure) it always turned out that these were not a good match after the initial fire subsided and you had "to talk"
and if your interests have zero in common or your attitudes about basic things -- this could be food, entertainment, certainly Religion . . . a hard core realist vs someone who is more artsy / emotional
etc etc etc
are not in alignment, then no matter how beautiful the partner, long-term
it is simply not going to work -- no matter how handsome, how socially connected, how great the sex, how great the bank account
if the minds aren't in sync, and your emotional "styles" incompatible . . . the happy days just cannot last
you're "attracted" with your eyes but the thing that matters most is the experience you have with "their mind"