however, more often than not -- the reason others give you a hard time is because they are jealous of you and feel bad about themselves
since the common way of seeing one's self is to believe you're not adequate, as is -- haven't there been 10,000,000 messages blasting that into your head since you were 2 ??
it is understandable that you would feel that others who are rude to you or verbally abusive think they're better than you
but think about it -- those people towards whom you may feel they are weaker or less together than you in some way . . . do you waste any energy walking up to them to say something?
so, if others are doing this to you, is it likely they would take the time or exert the energy to do this if they truly saw you as irrelevant ??
think about it
most people who are abusive do so because they feel INFERIOR -- either they see you as having something they wish they had for themselves
or they want something from you for which they feel ashamed
in English, Sally gives you shit but she does so because secretly she thinks you are prettier or smarter than she is
or Tommy is abusive to you because he has a sexual desire for you that he cannot express
in both these cases, the one doing the attacking is the weaker party
but because the "common school of thought" is that people who abuse you do it because YOU aren't "worthy"
this is typically internalized as CONFIRMATION that you really AREN'T worthy
when, actually, it is just the