if this scares someone off, they needed to be scared off
I don't need "experience" -- I've had plenty
I know basically what I want and those who can hang, will
those who can't, won't; if I was 24, I would play this out differently
and I have probably run some amazing women away over the past couple of years
however --
I know what I want and I know what I don't
so, first most critical point -- be truthful
honesty is the best and only policy
and this includes being honest with yourself
always !!
2) don't live in the rear view mirror
if something seemed great yesterday yet sucks today . . . accept that yesterday was . . . well, yesterday
3) be confident in who you are . . . if someone wants something else, give up
straight off
if you're a unicorn and they like pack mules, then let 'em find a pack mule
someone will love your unicornatopia and they are the only one who matters
face it -- you're going to suck at being someone else . . . life is complicated enough being yourself
so, back to point #1
be honest
and 4) don't brood
be pleasant, own your truth and let the world roll on as it wishes
help it along -- but don't moan if it doesn't go your way
it just means you've eliminated a dead end without driving around town for 6 months
and that, in a nutshell . . . my "dating philosophy" :)