. . . if there is "truth" to reincarnation, then the manner in which you approach life is likely a reflection of a certain "style" that has deep roots
however, what is causing you the pain is also a very graphic sign post indicating where to look (and the looking should always be within -- not on "the outside")
to "find a strategy" to move from pain to lesson learned
. . . again, if there is truth to reincarnation, it is also likely true that somewhere within that karmic pot
is an answer to "fixing what ails you"
if you only LOOK